Marina Yardaeva Currency When it is better than a psychologist, 04/15/2025, 10:21

Our reality is really paradoxical. Every year in Russia, the demand for psychologists increases, and more and more people choose awareness and therapy. It is understood that society should be healthier every day. But everything is the opposite. The number of depressed Russians is increasing rapidly. This spring was considered as the Institute of Psychology of the Russian Academy of Sciences 39% of the RussiansIt is prone to depressive strip disorders.

After that, is it incredible at the same time with the growth of demand for psychotherapy, and insecurity increases? For example, for ten years, the number of suspicious mental profiles for experts increased by 9% -rose from 29% to 38%. And now what an interesting model emerges: Participants express their insecurity more frequently in “brain walks ,, and their income is so high. Among the citizens with income up to 50 thousand rubles. Only three (32%) talk about insecurity to psychologists, then earn more than 80 thousand rubles. – in almost every second (47%).

And then a wave swept over the internet. First, the social network X and later in other places, people began to remember the experiment in Kenya. Five years ago, scientists from MIT (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) They divided people with depression into different groups: some participants in the experiment were sent to a psychotherapy, and others psychological help, $ 500. Therefore, there were no first changes, unfortunate people were useful, but the second showed much more vitality. It turned out that money was more effective than therapy. And I watch this and I want to beat my hands. Damn it! Who would think? He opened America again! It never happened – and here again!

Don’t think I’m doing glling. Psychology has great respect and frightening. The best representatives of this glorious science were a separate place on a special philosophical shelf in a library (I wrote almost in Hell). Adjacent to Frankl, Fromm, Freud, Jung, Yalom Berdyaev, Shestov, Kierkegoor, Camus and Schopenhauer. Psychology is the best that people reveal the control of the soul during the years of civilization. Previously, some functions of psychotherapists were performed by priests, friends and other travelers in the long run. And this and the others, and the third, moved to the best three. Yes, they could listen and condemn, yes, they were ready to support a word, but to formulate an important question, to bring an honest mirror to your face – here. And now Beauty: Pay money to a qualified specialist and recognize yourself according to Socrates’s grandchildren.

However! Actually it looked very different “but”. How to choose a good expert and not encounter a debt and even charlatan? How is it not confused: Your soul hurts or insignificant thyroid? How can I distinguish mental problems from others? How to determine: Is it about clinical depression or a person has become a fashion victim for sex, and for him, is he just a demonstration consumption? How does it not escape by therapy until it disrupts your own childhood memories and injuries associated with it? And about money. As they say, there are problems, but there are costs. Surprisingly, people usually confuse one to another and spend the earned in the wrong place.

I have a relative. He’s been in therapy for five years. He still does not agree with a toxic mother in the same house in forty years. It explodes angrily for my shy assumption that it can be easier to rent a separate apartment: why, the mother says that only three rooms should spend money while enjoying life. In a session with a psychologist, he passes half a rent. And by the way, half of your salaries. And he could have spent the time spent on the couch to win in an independent life.

Another acquaintance was stuck in a difficult marriage. There is only one disaster film: children, a common circle, loans, addiction and the periodic unemployment of her husband. The sacrifice believes that it is a disaster passion, that the spouse has a secret power on him, because here you can continue a talented manipulator, an abuse, a gazliner and to whom. The psychologist believes that it is better to communicate with a lawyer who is an expert in divorce procedures (he was well caught). But he doesn’t want to be an unhappy lawyer, but another therapist, even expensive, is more sensitive, understanding.

Thirdly, psychology thinks that a cheerful coaching with stand -up elements. Marathons, master classes, paid streams-hepsi. In principle, in fun, let me. But a friend is not somehow cheerful. He also visits the sessions with a psychologist. Yes, not simple, financial. Because the patient’s main demand is the participation of cash flows, the struggle against fear of poverty. It had already fell to this struggle more than a hundred thousand. But you know, I understand it very well. I have a similar enthusiasm.

I also go periodically at the therapy. But then I open the calculator in my head: one hour of five thousand, minus twenty months and receptions and the path to an expert. And by the way, I have a mortgage, kids. With the loan, the debt does not defeat me. And instead of going to a psychologist, I choose to work another. Yes, workolism is evil. But it helps. At least for the fear of ruins. And usually distributes our attention. And it teaches humility. Finally, if there is no money for a therapist, you should first solve a problem of financial problems. And there, you see it and the therapist will not be needed.

No, if there is a completely land: a loss grief, the collapse of your own universe, you will realize that you cannot go out without a sincere help. And you will run. And you will find money. But you won’t find-milediye clinic or some crisis centers you will go to a free doctor. In the meantime, I went to a psychologist with a female consultancy. And they helped me. Yes, the conversation went through standard protocols, there is nothing special, but that was what I needed – simple and understandable schemes. It was important to me to understand that what happened to me did not break my perception, being in the traumatic situation, I still see reality as it is and I can make the right decisions. And I repeat, I helped. I taxed it.

In general, psychotherapy is serious. No, you can play when there is no special problem in life, but at least I want to be on my own in an interesting plot. But if things are really insignificant, before they are worth creating real causes. Probably, money and power should be directed to something more specific, not mental wounds.

The author expresses a personal view that may not coincide with the position of the editors.