“The girl left me. I went to her house to make up for it, but I saw her with someone new. They stopped at the entrance and also took care of things. Then I thought and joined, ”I read this immortal text almost verbatim on one of the psychological forums. If it seems to someone that such idiots do not exist in the wild, I will disappoint you. There are also those who are not!
People are seriously looking for answers to their questions about love relationships on the internet. And the above is far from the most cheerful example. I decided to examine the matter more carefully. With pleasure and distrust, I dived into private communities and forums. It’s already breathtaking!
Dozens and hundreds of destinies are presented on multi-page canvases. “He said he didn’t love me and blocked me, I came to him with a bouquet, called the police. What should I do?” – written, for example, on the first page of the topic with the heading “Help!!!”.
And for 20-30 pages, hastily born “experts” give advice and instructions, craft cunning plans and devise strategies to bring the girl back.
At the end of the discussion, the author, as a rule, has time to grow old, raise grandchildren and meet new love in the pension fund.
And if the level of competence of such counselors does not raise any questions (after all, as my schoolteacher said, everyone has fun to the extent of immorality), then what is on the minds of people who seek personal happiness in others? people’s advice?!
And then it occurred to me.
A Russian always lives, as it were, in search of a little magic pill for everything. She recently charged water on TV, then rushed to fortunetellers and psychics. And today he sincerely believed in the miraculous power of network psychologists. The fact that almost any problem can be solved with a few right tips.
Go to the gym, get a haircut, change your image and the girl will definitely love you again. Do not reply to messages and do not turn off instant messengers – and he will immediately leave his mistress, begin to see clearly and return to his family.
And after all, they cut their hair, do not answer, do whatever they want, reporting their success to strangers. I sincerely hope this will help.
I thought these were exceptional, rare, unique people. Until I caught myself and some of my acquaintances reviewing the work of network experts on a variety of subjects.
Curiosity is of course a minor sin. But it seems to me that the most important thing to remember about any advice and text on the internet, the only metric that gives the understanding of “isn’t what is written here nonsense and is it worth listening to” is the answer to the question: does it exist in any theory or other academic basis?
And the sharper and more painful the topic (and the topic about personal relationships, for example, is as sharp and painful as possible, given the percentage of divorce) – the more information garbage around, the higher the need to filter information, compare , refer to scientific sources.
Because I have very sad news for the reader. “I brought terrible news to your house, Nadezhda, call the children.” from the series
No magic miracle tips. But he constantly needs to turn his head.
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Source: Gazeta
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