Alhama de Murcia victims said after the sanction: “We felt alone and unprotected by the F League”

From the first moment his situation was made public, the locker room turned into hell. Neither their teammates nor the technical staff supported them. “We went to Bilbao just when the news broke. Imagine, On that trip, we left the hotel completely with the team. We had our friends in front of us. “It was terrible,” says Noelia Gil. “My colleagues decided to truly believe this man and his wife and They didn’t want to listen to me. We We did not say that this man was a rapist or that there was sexual harassment.“We did not report this,” he adds, emphasizing the events that took place.

psychological treatment

In addition to the humiliation and psychological abuse reported, it was also proven that he was sanctioned by his former locker room colleagues. “68% of staff” have been exposed to such behavior “repeatedly over time”, As reflected in the Labor Inspectorate investigation carried out by the Federation.

“I had a pretty bad time. It hit me hard, and still does, actually.” I am sick and have an eating disorder“, says Erica. “I was relieved when we made the decision. There have been very difficult times, I have had very difficult times for many years. I have seen people behave this way not only in myself, but also in every colleague. I He was already at Alhama for seven seasons, go figure it out. You hope that at some point everything will change or something will change, but in the end it did not happen,” adds the football player, who continues to receive psychological treatment to manage what happened.

“I didn’t ask for permission because I didn’t want her to stay there laughing all day and I had to leave, as it always happens to victims. Damn it. I said: Even if I die, even if it costs me visits to the psychologist, I’ll stay here. It was terrible. I’ve never had a worse time in my life.. And best of all, the bad part about the whole thing wasn’t Randi, because it was Randi, and look, it bothers me, the worst thing was the disappointment of my teammates,” admits Noelia Gil.

“Fears and insecurity”

The treatment received by the coach left its mark on all the football players who spoke in this media. Whether it’s former players of the team like Nazaret Segura or those in the locker room who say enough is enough. Now some of them are on other teams, but they continue to suffer the consequences of everything they went through. “Everything I experience at the new club I’m at now is hurting me. You have automatisms, you do not trust yourself, you need to regain your essence, your confidence.. I was in a place where my way of life was taken away from me. I could never be calm“Always with fear and anxiety, trying to achieve the least possible outcome,” one of them adds.

“When you come out of such a difficult and complex situation, you don’t even know who you are and The situation becomes even more complicated when you arrive somewhere and see that they are treating you well because you don’t even believe it.. Frankly, I carry my process, my fears and insecurities inside me. It’s little things in my head but little by little I feel better and feel better. I see the Andrea from before“In the same sense, adds Andrea Carid, who plays for Alavés.

Thanks FUTPRO

In addition to being abandoned by their colleagues, the complainants felt isolated by some sections of the institutions, especially the F League, which has not made a single statement regarding the case to date. “Of course, if I stop thinking about institutions I felt lonely. I certainly did not feel the support of anyone outside FUTPRO or other unions that pride themselves on defending the players. It seems to me that they leave a little to be desiredCarid says “r”. All victims thank FUTPRO, the majority union of women’s football, for fighting for them and defending them at such a difficult time.

“We always hope that when this information is brought to the attention of the F League, there will be a statement. Without taking a position, but at least in a politically correct way, we would understand that saying: ‘Hey, we were aware of this information, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,’ we would ask the League for actions that violate women’s rights.” We want to condemn…’ And no. We felt vulnerable“, says Noelia Gil.”The F League was the first to make a statement about Jenni being at the World Cup and said okay, that’s fine with me. What about us? Where are we? “It was a huge disappointment,” he adds.

“Let’s not remain silent about this”

There was always a bond between them that helped them stay tough and manage anything that came their way. They all agree that taking the step of reporting is very complicated, and that in addition to being brave, you also need to be surrounded by people who believe in you and support you. “However worth reporting. According to me This is so hard, and I’m not going to romanticize the fact that we’re going to go out and talk now. You have to see yourself in this situation and see how having the courage and support is overwhelming you. But I Unfortunately, I encourage anyone who is in this situation to come forward and talk about it. If you have no one, write to me, whoever it is, I will find a way to contact him. But above all, let’s not remain silent on this issue, let’s not continue to allow such attitudes. We don’t deserve them, no matter how much they make us believe we deserve them. Even though talking is difficult, it is the solution“, claims Carid.