Marriage is a difficult issue, especially in modernity: look, making a choice, seeking reciprocity independently to a young man and not quietly agree with the decision of the old generation. It looks great when we are not limited to anything: show yourself, make a lot of jokes and say good words and now – your dream girl already agrees to go to the student cage on ice cream, and a beautiful picture of the upcoming celebration emerges in my head. Or isn’t it really?
Actually – no, everything is not easy at all. Especially in big cities. Indeed, this perfect creature often appreciates your compliance with your payment power, your adaptation to some internal standards that are invented by a smart lady rather than social networks, and only then it will kindly agree with you to dinner with you. And even here, a young man doesn’t always expect success, because he understands that he is a clown called to illuminate another boring evening in the speech process. It did not affect his article, the thickness of the wallet is no longer particularly interesting. All initiatives to bring Lady to talk are unsuccessful and don’t know how to support the conversation, and more and more, more and more, reaping the loan on the table on the table. The evening ends. Both are upset that they can’t find the person he hoped to meet here, go home and then try again.
After a few “history”, a young man begins to think: Does he need a constant relationship? In fact, if they bring nothing but resource and energy expenditures. Some attitudes in the head are changing and now he is no longer looking for a companion he is ready to go through, but he is pleased with one -time meetings to meet his needs. He ages, moves in the workplace, starts to make money and even satisfy his own wishes even more expensive, because he can cover it. And he doesn’t call anyone anymore, because he’s accustomed to it and he lives very comfortably. And the thought of the wedding looks completely funny and very far from him. And ten years later, from then on, he’s already going to meet the same girl calmly and ends in a hotel’s room or home and never meet again.
Of course there are opposite situations. The same café comes with a girl, who is actively communicating with her, laughing at jokes and hoping to spend a good time with the man who goes well in general. Once, another, third, first kisses and then meet healthy, strong relationships – as he thinks in any case. He doesn’t look at his phone until a day or does not return home. Perhaps it will not change in the process of relationships – but it will be subject to other bad habits: drunkenness and drug addiction to violence. And then the world was broken and then the girl in her friends cope with the emptiness. And so, it could be more than once. Girls are disappointed in relationships and boys, and they no longer want to communicate with it in order not to talk about marriage.
Why did I write all this? Recently, Reverend Pavel Ostrovsky, according to him, explained where the reluctance of the girls married. According to the Holy Father, this is a “male problem”. This is exactly the behavior of the partner, when every second man is dragged to bed ”and“ sets out ”in front of the girl he loves, but he does not know how to speak normally, he can get away from the last step, the priest is sure. The girl will say “yes ,, but“ not like a spleen, not to dance, but only gentle, attentive and sensitive ”when you meet a real man. And I partially agree. The official “chapter” personality is very important to create a family. But this works in both directions: If a girl cannot offer anything to a potential partner, she does not believe it and is not ready to give her a chance at the beginning of the way of life, why does she need it? What normal relationship can a young man come to a meeting with his expectations at the level of prince on a white horse, an ordinary ”level? And with a big checkbook and definitely for crazy and fun about it.
After all, now somewhere, two people come in a cafe in the same way, and wait carefully a capture, already taught with bitter experience. Keep believing the best and looking for that person. And I hope everything will be fine with them.
The author expresses a personal view that may not coincide with the position of the editors.
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Source: Gazeta
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