“I will broadcast as long as I love myself”
All the heroes with whom socialbites.ca managed to contact went to the webcam out of necessity, but not all of them are ashamed of it. One of them is St. It is Nadezhda from St. Petersburg (name changed at the request of the hero. – socialbites.ca).
Nadezhda is 64 years old. She looks neat: in a beautiful dress and glasses, thin lips are drawn with pencil, eyelashes and eyebrows are also painted. Bossa nova plays in the background. A woman dances barely noticeable while sitting in front of a computer. When she learned that they wanted to interview her, she was not embarrassed at all and became the first person to write a private message without asking for prepayment. Bold and unconventional.
First of all, the socialbites.ca correspondent asks about the experience: “How long have you been broadcasting? More than a year? Then the woman who was silent twenty minutes ago laughs loudly.
“I’ve been here for over eight years,” he says. And then he tells his story.
Nadezhda learned about webcams herself and decided quite quickly. She explained her reason by saying that her pension was 14 thousand rubles. I am not enough for anything, but I do not want to ask my daughters for help because it is now difficult for young people to reveal their potential.
“Before I retired, I was working as a designer in a framing workshop. Communication with foreigners was established. Then there was a choice: either a maid for 24 thousand rubles. at best, or here… A webcam with which you can earn two to three times more, even if you have no experience,” explains Nadezhda.
He admits that now he has enough money both for the mortgage (a few years ago a woman bought a room in a communal apartment in St. Petersburg) and for herself.
“Everything costs money. Make-up lessons, fitness, modeling, fashion shows. I’ve done it all, and I can do it all. Fashion shows are paid fashion shows. You get dressed, you take care of yourself, and then they take you to the catwalk. It costs between 2 and 15 thousand per appearance. It’s among the elderly now.” “It’s become fashionable,” says the woman.
At first Nadezhda, like everyone else, was ashamed to show herself. And then it became an integral part of everyday life for him. Moreover, the webcam gave her an incentive to take care of herself in order to please others and, more importantly, herself.
“I will continue to broadcast even after the mortgage. “I will do this as long as I love myself,” he says.
Nadezhda has three daughters. They know mom is busy on webcam. Moreover, he himself did not say – this was done by “hackers” who sent a link to his profile on a webcam service to all his family and friends. Before that, they blackmailed and extorted the model.
“Of course there was a misunderstanding. But I told my daughters the same thing I told you: “I have no money and I don’t want to sit on your neck.” “They calmed down over time,” the model explained.
As for the audience, he understands their wishes. In his experience, those who come to webcam services are people who cannot realize their fantasies in family life.
“Then either change it or quietly… Here. Many come for advice: they ask how best to treat women in bed,” Nadezhda shares.
She recommends that other webcam girls learn to listen to men and manipulate them. Then, in his opinion, it will be possible to earn money without corruption.
“Your own mistress”
Olga (name changed at the request of the hero. – socialbites.ca) is 60 years old. He has a heavy body but a gentle, round face with a large nose. There is almost no makeup: just lightly painted eyebrows and lips. She sits on a chair and looks bored into the camera, occasionally getting distracted by the television. She is showing a television program.
Someone writes in the chat: “Show your ass and Svetani nipple for 1 coin (currency used to pay for webcam services; the cost of one token depends on the service, as a rule, the cost of 1 token is 10 euro cents, that is, about 10 rubles)” Olga sees this message and lets out a short laugh, her face turning into a wide smile and the shiny metal crowns on her teeth are revealed.
“Well, let me show you,” says Olga.
He rises heavily from his chair, turns his back to the camera and leans forward. The audience seems pleased; He saw the underwear and sent the promised reward.
“I’ll only show my nipples in private (private video communication session between model and client, tariff varies from service to service – usually a minute costs 15-30 coins)“Honey,” Olga explained, returning to her chair.
Answering the questions of socialbites.ca correspondent, Olga says that she was born and raised in Ukraine. She now lives in a village near Lvov. She speaks Russian.
“I have been streaming for over six months. I was forced out of need – I had nothing to pay for utilities. Especially now, in wartime. “There are no jobs in the villages, so I had to go and embarrass myself,” he explains.
He admits that he could not decide for a long time: he was afraid of shame and condemnation. He’s still embarrassed, but less so now. And according to the woman herself, there is no one to condemn her.
Another bystander interrupts the conversation. “Who has this much beauty?” he asks. Olga laughs again and says that she has no one – she lives alone, her husband has been dead for 8 years. The woman refuses to answer the reporter’s question about the children, claiming that her webcam service is banned. The reporter continues to ask: “Is there a son out front?”
“You see, you know it yourself,” he replies.
According to him, mostly fetishists come to chat and they want to show something instead of chatting. But he doesn’t call them fetishists. These, he says, are “people with cockroaches.”
“They asked me to show everything. But I don’t do anything I don’t like. I obey only myself. “I am my own boss,” says Olga.
When asked how he learned about webcams in general, he shrugs and adds: “Everyone knows everything now.”
“Of course, there are friends who broadcast. There are many of us here. Most of them are old like me. The reason is the same; There is no money but you have to live. “It’s nothing… It could be worse,” the streamer reassures himself, and his face instantly turns sad again.
Again, an ordinary viewer. He wants to see the bra. Olga laughs, but bends down and pulls out a very large, bright red bra from somewhere off-screen.
“Number four or five. “It depends on who sews it,” he says, still laughing.
The audience rejoices. He asks her out. Olga smiles, nods and says: “Look!”
“They call me all the time on appointments. They even want to come to Lviv. But I never went. We are not allowed, it is not recommended,” explains Olga.
“For the money yes”
Elena is 63 years old. She spent the second half of her life in Armenia. She is very different from other older webcam girls as she almost always sits naked in front of the camera, talks a lot, jokes and laughs. Voice hoarse. The hair is bleached, and above the eyebrows there are two wide stripes tattooed with black ink.
Elena immediately asks everyone in the chat to help with the coin. Judging by the “menu” she is willing to do a lot for tokens. Moreover, she handles all requests realistically. Here the viewer says “show and caress your ass” and throws a few coins. The woman sees the reward and stands up without interrupting her life story, fulfills the order and continues the conversation calmly.
“She got married. We set out for Armenia. Her husband died, there was no one left. They pay very little salary at work, there is no pension. That’s why I’m returning,” she says.
When asked why he did not return to Russia, he says that he was doing well in Armenia. And in fact there is no one to return to.
According to him, he has been on webcam for several years. He has a positive attitude towards this type of part-time work: for him it already looks like free time. He has regular viewers with whom he often flirts and then brazenly begs them for coins. He drinks frequently to relax.
“It’s more fun for everyone. People come to me to talk and relax. And I talk and relax,” the woman explains.
Elena was not very frank with the socialbites.ca correspondent. At least it’s free. And why waste time with just one person when there are hundreds of viewers and many of them are sharing little things like this?
Is there a need or desire for attention?
Pornographic content featuring older people is an unpopular category on adult websites. According to some datagerontophilic (gerontophilia is sexual attraction to older people. – socialbites.ca) topics account for only 0.15% of all search queries. At the same time, sexologist and psychotherapist Oleg Gulko from the Research and Clinical Center “Karpovka+” assures that not everyone who consumes such content is necessarily a gerontophile:
“A man may watch explicit porn content for various reasons. Especially various shocks in life that cause stress, anxiety and more can motivate him to do this. Viewing “unusual” content may also be part of the experiment. As the original genre ceases to impress, men are again changing their preferences in porn content to find something that will provoke an emotional response in them. The second may also occur due to various events in life.
As for the older models, Gulko believes they only meet demand in the content market. Women’s display of sexuality in old age should be perceived in the same way as the emergence of sexuality in mature women.
“In a sociocultural context, the sexualization of older women is still a taboo phenomenon, but this taboo has been weakening since the sexual revolution. “Then the paradigm that claimed that a woman’s sexuality ended when her reproductive years ended was broken,” he explained.
In turn, private psychologist Tatyana Semenko is sure that the need is not the only reason that pushes older women to the webcam. According to him, the personality of such models contains traits that motivate them to show themselves to others, and words about shame become an excuse for both themselves and the audience.
“Nearly every prostitution or webcam agent claims to do unsanctioned work out of necessity. But if you start to understand, it turns out that many of them enjoy male attention, they welcome and control various partners, they enjoy feeling like an expensive woman… I mean, even in extreme cases An alternative to socially condemned activity is often needed, but some not only choose it , it also stays in it for a long time,” expressed the psychologist’s assessment.
The so-called secondary benefits that cover shame in older women, according to Semenko, may be primarily a feeling of attractiveness, the emergence of a desire to take care of oneself, increased self-confidence and more. The psychologist says that all this is often missing in old age.
“However, one side of the personality says I’ve done embarrassing things, and the other side says, “I’m still great!” This kind of disharmony in the mind often causes neuroses and depression. “Paranoid anxiety can also be added if a person fears their activities will be publicised,” he added.
Semenko concluded that in such an environment the mental state is depleted over time, followed by a deterioration in health and physical condition.
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Source: Gazeta
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