Psychologist Tatyana Muzhitskaya explained that lack of interest in the child’s words and constant “expert” assessment of his interests and hobbies can lead to a deterioration in family relations. The expert talked about this in an interview for the program “OK in touch”.
Muzhitskaya noted that many parents do not really want to listen to their children. Sometimes they bombard him with various questions, for example, about his performance at school. Since the answers to these questions do not satisfy the parents, the conversation with the child continues in an “educational” tone. The child perceives this reaction as a lack of interest.
The psychologist also explained that people often act as “experts” in their personal relationships (including relationships with their children), evaluating the child’s interests and hobbies in terms of usefulness.
“People often confuse the roles of expert and parent (or husband, wife, son, daughter). An expert is needed to make an evaluation and evaluate the system, losses and profits. But evaluations in personal relationships are a very dangerous thing,” said Muzhitskaya.
For example, a parent may harshly criticize his child for saying that his favorite subject is physical education. Mom or dad will try to convince him that there are other, more useful activities worth paying attention to. The child’s interest in physical education is devalued or perceived as insufficient gratitude to parents for the opportunity to participate in paid sections and clubs.
The psychologist explained that this approach to parenting can lead to children and parents becoming estranged from each other. The child will no longer show a desire to communicate with his father or mother, because the reaction to his words is unpredictable and often negative.
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