Psychologists at the University of Toronto (Kadada) have found that the popular theory of the five love languages (that love is expressed through encouraging words, giving gifts, providing assistance, spending time together, and physical touch) has no validity. scientific basis. Research results published In the journal Current Directions in Psychological Science (CDPS).
According to the concept of love languages by American author and self-proclaimed marriage counselor Gary Chapman, each person expresses their love in their own language. In his popular book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman describes five ways to express love: touch, words, gifts, time, and help. At the same time, inconsistencies between these “love languages” accompany problems in relationships.
Meta-analysis of previous scientific studies on the topic of relationship style in couples allowed scientists to identify several weaknesses of this theory. They noted that Chapman’s study sample included “highly religious, traditionally monogamous heterosexual cisgender couples,” which affected the validity of the findings and their applicability to all people.
The meta-analysis also showed that people prefer to show love in all kinds of ways. In studies involving couples, all five “love languages” have been found to be meaningful and appropriate depending on the context.
However, researchers noted that Chapman’s theory also has a strength; Her book raises people’s awareness of unmet needs in relationships.
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