Parents who enter the child’s room without knocking not only greatly violate his privacy, but also expose him to tremendous stress and anxiety. The child perceives such actions as aggression and violation of personal boundaries, that is, disrespect. This is an occupational psychologist, Dr. Stanislav Sambursky, a clinical psychologist at Anikina’s Clinic and author of the Ecological Psychologist Zen channel, told socialbites.ca.
According to the expert, in order to understand how far you can go when violating a child’s privacy, it is necessary to take into account his age and individual characteristics.
“Parental control is necessary, but it should not turn into violence and violation of the child’s boundaries. Too much control and care can lead to emotional withdrawal and distrust of parents. In severe cases, excessive control can lead to psychological trauma such as helplessness, anxiety and distrust of others,” the psychologist warned.
He noted that for the development of a harmonious person, parents should respect the privacy and boundaries of the child. It is important to understand that complete control does not ensure the safety of children, but locks them into their parents’ fears.
“If a child does not want to share his thoughts and feelings, that is his right. It is important that parents create an atmosphere of trust and not impose their will. You cannot leave the child without knocking, do not clean in his absence, rearrange things, enter his backpack or pockets. Even before washing, ask your child to check the pockets of his jeans. This will create respect for the child and your personal space. “If you break into your son or daughter’s bag, don’t be surprised that they will have the moral right to look into your bag,” said Stanislav Sambursky.
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