“My mother is here, but where is the bride?”
Muscovites Alexei and Anastasia Erofeev met when the future head of the family was only 19 years old. Five years ago, on New Year’s Eve, a young man decided to congratulate his classmate Lena on the approach. And finally he met his love.
“I saw that Nastya was older than me, but when they said that she was 39 years old and was actually the mother of Lena and her three brothers and sisters, I fell into a precipitate. At first she started to avoid him a little, before that we had a drink together in the kitchen and then a few more glasses – and it didn’t matter what anyone thought or said there. More importantly, he was the most open, cheerful and simple of all those present. It was sticking. And age is just numbers,” says 24-year-old Alexei.
However, not all friends and close couples agree. Anastasia’s daughter, Lena, did not speak to her mother for six months after she announced her affair with her former classmate.
The eldest son of Anastasia Gleb, who is a year older than Alexei himself, fiercely threatened his mother’s chosen one.
“At first, her older children thought that this story was from the category of “showing off in front of men.” Then they began to say that although Nastya was an ordinary salesman, I was with her because of money. When we moved together, Gleb even returned to his mother. Several times he bored me at home, if I disturbed him all threatened to break bones. Only after realizing that I did not break anyone and would not sit on anyone’s neck, I calmed down, I earn more and bring everything home, ”Erofeev shared.
His family did not react very positively to Alexei’s new lover.
“The mother cried first, she said it wasn’t normal. Let’s say she looks fine now, but what happens when you’re only 40 and 60? He calmed down over time. He and Nastya are not friends, but if they meet now, they communicate well, ”the young man notes.
According to her, all friends and relatives reconciled with their relationship after about a year. At the same time, Anastasia became pregnant, and the couple decided to get married.
“An employee of the registry office almost ruined our vacation. As our turn to paint approaches, I say, “So, is everybody here? I see my father, my mother is here, but where is the bride? Our mothers did not come to the registry at that time, the registrar thought that my mother was Nastya. It’s nice that the wife did not hear about it, ”says Erofeev.
The young man claims that there is always a misunderstanding of others. Often people confuse their social roles in the family and when they learn the truth they are very surprised and start whispering. For example, this year, when the daughter of the Erofeevs went to kindergarten, they had to constantly correct the parents of other children and teachers, who at first called Alexei the girl’s older brother, or Nastya – grandmother.
“We are no longer resentful and unresponsive, but we are used to sideways glances. Sometimes he even jokes with himself, they say, get your grandmother out of work. Questions from the category: “How, such a big difference!” we just ignore. The opinion of those around us does not care at all, the main thing is that we and our children are happy, ”Alexei concluded.
“I’m not embarrassed that we’re both boys, but the FSB’s banner embarrassed me.
Muscovites Evgeny Makarov and Anatoly Nekrasov have been dating for almost six years. After meeting on an LGBT dating app, they immediately set up a meeting and have been dating ever since.
“It didn’t bother me that we were both boys, just as it didn’t bother me that I was 18 and he was 35, but the FSB banner on the windshield of the car embarrassed me a lot. But as I got to know each other better, I calmed down. He was calm, poised, charismatic. And he was at the FSB at the time. it hadn’t worked for several years. It’s just that our relationship was built on a lie from the very beginning. We did not lie to each other – to others. And we continue to do so, ”says Evgeny.
Therefore, the couple initially agreed not to reveal their relationship to anyone, under any circumstances, unless they were best friends, of which both were sure. As a result, everything came down to two fictitious marriages.
“To admit that you are gay is dangerous for health in Russia. Both physically and mentally. Therefore, my friends, with the exception of my closest ones, think that Tolya is my best friend or roommate if they know that we live together. Relatives think that my boyfriend is the brother of my current ex-girlfriend Olya. When we first moved in together, I told my parents that I was moving in with my boyfriend, whom my best friend sometimes pretends to be, to support the legend. Tolya has no relatives, but his friends need excuses too.
To avoid the condemnation of others, we both got married fictitious. He just got divorced in December of this year and I got married in September. Society was also very worried about why she had no children at the age of 40. He lied to everyone that his girlfriend had “-9” vision, at risk of going blind during childbirth.
We’re both worried about what people will say, and to be honest this lie is getting tired of it already. But we have no other way to live in peace, ”says Makarov.
At the same time, according to him, none of his relatives, only acquaintances and colleagues, do not even know that he and Anatoly are gay.
“Many of my friends casually say: “Here, I immediately know if my assistant is one of them. In fact, you’ll never know unless your friend wants to tell or show you that he or she is gay, because most of us live ordinary lives and are no different from straights. My boyfriend’s colleagues from the FSB would never have suspected him, ”says Makarov.
And he adds that the only time they couldn’t hide their relationship was the World Cup. Then they managed to walk the streets hand in hand, and society stuck to it.
“Most of the time we’re perverts, they say it straight to your face”
st. Petersburg, Daria Kamina, Georgy Smirnov and Sergei Zagorsky have been living together for eight years. It all started with Sergey’s search for tenants who could rent two rooms for “three rubles”. And first he found 22-year-old George, then 20-year-old Daria.
“For almost three months we lived without the slightest sympathy for each other. As they began to approach and spend more time together, both Seryozha and Gosha started looking at me. I didn’t know who to choose. I thought that if I chose Seryozha, I would not live without Gosha. And vice versa. As a result, we got drunk one evening and everything began to spin on its own. We did three. Moreover, the children showed interest not only in me, but also in each other. From that day on, we became the closest people and decided not to limit ourselves to anything, ”shares Kamina.
According to the girl, she and her partners are trying to hide the fact that they are “polygamous”, those who allow the presence of several partners in a relationship at once. Most often, the trio tries to publicly express their feelings with only one person and only in the circle of their closest friends.
“At first we were not shy, at the party I could kiss Serezha, and then there with Gosha. Many of us were surprised if they didn’t know we were “non-standard”. Seeing us kissing with a drunk friend of Serezha’s, Gosha, we think I’m paired with Sergey, and we try to warn everyone about this in advance. He punched George in the face. He also swore at me what kind of “Sh” and “B” I am. Then we explained everything to him, he nodded, but walked away. Seryozha was only upset at first, then we decided that we did not need friends who did not accept us, ”said Seryozha.
But many do not accept a non-standard triad – often, others attribute this form of relationship to complexes, sexual deviations and childhood traumas.
“Oftentimes they say we’re perverts straight to our face. Some friends think our relationship is just fun, they say it all stops when we find a partner we truly love and don’t want to share with anyone. I don’t deny that it can happen, but as long as we’re all comfortable, why not? We’ve been living happily for eight years. “And we have a very diverse sex life. We’re not going to end it,” says Kamina.
A few weeks after this conversation, Daria told socialbites.ca that their relationship ended when Georgy decided to choose the path of monogamy, and she and Sergey were looking for a new partner. George made such a decision after he began to visit a psychologist.
Source: Gazeta
