Psychologist explains why giving up on yourself is scary 02:02

There are people who quit quickly and with pleasure, but there are also those who begin to blame themselves, feel ashamed, afraid, and therefore drive themselves into extreme tension and depression. In psychology, there is a term “self-stigma” regarding such people. Psychologist Marina Veles told socialbites.ca about this.

“Self-stigma is when one puts pressure on oneself, blames oneself, and believes in one’s own “betrayal,” in deviating from the norm,” he explained.

There are many reasons for fear of being fired.

“Survival is the main goal located in the limbic system, the oldest part of the brain. It’s important for him to leave us where we are. The infamous comfort zone is not about comfort and convenience, but about the familiar: “I know every bump here. I was born here.” And when we try to cross the border, our brain signals with fear: “Don’t do it, don’t start something new!” Because the survival rate is higher in familiar conditions,” said the expert.

Another reason is the “imposter” syndrome.

“If in the old place everything is already familiar and familiar, no one lifts a finger, then in another workplace the syndrome will manifest itself with renewed vigor: you will have to start everything over, rework it. And also low self-esteem. For example, the longer you remain attached to an abusive leader, the lower your self-esteem becomes, because the brain gradually begins to believe what is repeated most often,” noted the expert.

Velez emphasized that healthy feelings of guilt arise when we cause harm. If a person begins to devalue himself, if he did not live up to expectations, if he “betrayed” the team, these are neurotic emotions.

“This is because we have been raised with feelings of guilt and shame since childhood. But you have your own life and you are responsible for it. If you see that it is bad here, but it will be better in another company, then you need to adjust your life. “Don’t suffer in a job you don’t like,” said the psychologist.

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Source: Gazeta

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