To find the cause of your bad mood, you must learn to listen to yourself. Ilya Shubochkin, a psychologist and founder of the School of Emotional Development, told socialbites.ca about this.
The specialist advised, first of all, to accept the fact that you experience emotions that you may not like: they do not make a person bad, they are just a reaction to external stimuli.
“Emotions in this context are signals that something is wrong with you. Treat them as another way to learn about yourself and the world around you. Let yourself be angry, upset, envious, and then you will have the opportunity to analyze this information, begin to understand the reasons for such feelings, ”explained Ilya Shubochkin.
He noted that you need to learn to associate emotions with the reactions of the body, determine what you feel – it is not without reason that there are phrases for this, such as “sucking the stomach”, “a stone in the heart.” “They hit it like a dusty bag”.
“Listen to your feelings and you’ll get closer to understanding what’s happening to you,” the psychologist advised.
In her opinion, once you understand the problem, it’s worth “to find the courage to speak honestly with yourself and accept the desires you’ve pushed before.”
“How often do we think that all this is bullshit, that it doesn’t deserve our attention, that we should do business and not investigate ourselves. But it is precisely this kind of behavior that creates the prerequisites for breaking contact with ourselves, with our desires, ”warned Shubochkin.
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