The scandal surrounding Anna Sedokova has not subsided for three days: her ex-husband Janis Timma committed suicide, and social network users and even some media outlets blame the singer for the man’s death.
“I drove the man”, “I finished the game”, “no shame or conscience” – various people write. Sedokova later suffered a nervous breakdown and was hospitalized, from where she recorded a video message asking her son to protect her from information about the tragedy. And even this caused a violent reaction: many did not believe in the sincerity of the artist’s tears and considered this gesture an act. They say that a normal person cannot record video and speak coherently during hysteria.
For beginners, of course it can. Especially considering we are talking about a public figure. Anna is a singer, she is used to being in public and almost constantly being the center of attention. So all the arguments of the traditional woman Mani that she cannot do this are in favor of the poor. Baba Manya couldn’t publish 15 stories a day, hold three-hour concerts with after parties, and much more. This is a completely different psychotype, a completely different life, completely different habits. Dozens of times I have seen how the public, sadly sitting in the corner and silently staring at the phone, come alive, sparkle and sociable in a split second in front of the camera. Because this is a job that has become a part of the personality. And arguments based on “I can’t imagine that…” are stupid, forgive me. I also can’t imagine how people fly planes or balance annual balance sheets, that’s so far from my life, so why not trust pilots and accountants?
But this is more like a sideline. The main complaint, if you can call this crazy cruelty that way, is that Anna Sedokova is a heartless and greedy woman who is unimpressed by the pleas of her manipulative ex who calls her back. In the Russian tradition it is not customary to speak ill of the dead, but “manipulator” is the softest word I can think of.
So what’s the story? A successful and famous singer, after several years of marriage, decides to leave her husband, a not-so-lucky athlete originally from Latvia, who is persecuted there for performing in Russia, but is sidelined here. He did not earn much money and the relationship did not bring him pleasure. Sedokova filed for divorce, but Timma begged him to return, using techniques that every girl who left a man has experienced: sad stories, threats of suicide, endless calls and messages. Let’s be honest: How many of these threats have been carried out? What made Anna think her ex-husband was serious? That’s right – nothing.
Janis’ suicide is certainly a great tragedy, like the death of a young man, but it is also a terrible manipulation. Plan this for your ex-wife’s birthday – so what? To poison this day for herself and her children forever? But life, as always, made its own adjustments: death was officially recorded after midnight, the terrible idea did not come true – at least in some respects Sedokova was lucky, if it is appropriate to use this word.
The decision to die is the last and most irreparable decision you can make. Many things can be fixed, but death cannot. And the decision to die in this way is not only final, but also dishonorable, so to speak.
Anna has the strength to survive this tragedy and the persecution that follows. And we all need a little humanity and the ability to hold our tongues. Well, respect for each other and all that.
The author expresses his personal opinion, which may not coincide with the position of the editors.
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Source: Gazeta
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