Anna Sirota Why are men becoming too lazy to have sex? 23.11.2024, 08:00

Now I will start debunking the myths. Probably everyone has heard the fairy tale about headaches? Say, poor men constantly want sex, and cunning, cold women deny their intimacy with various excuses? And the most popular reason is headache? There is such a story in every movie and every book. Familiar images: A husband who always wants sex and a soulless, manipulative wife. He uses sex to get benefits such as gifts, cruises and various other pleasant bonuses. He constantly turns to the other side in bed, says he is tired, and even lies down on the sofa for her.

Who and when saw such a couple in life? After all, in fact, everything happens exactly the opposite. Let’s immediately exclude the candy bouquet period from the equation: here, of course, all men are great lovers of mathematics. They compete with an invisible one by counting its size and number. And by the way, they come out on top every time. It goes without saying that this period is wonderful for both of them, and it even seems to the woman that it will always be this way.

But honestly, how long will this celebration of life last? Well, a year, that is, a year and a half, at most two, if during this time an heir does not appear in the family. Why doesn’t anyone talk about the fact that men and women change roles from now on? And now he wants, but he is tired, busy and in general: bunny, let’s not do this today? How many women’s hearts were broken and how many tears were shed because of this indifferent complacency?

Every couple solves this problem differently. Someone switches to regular sex by prior agreement – for example, once a week. Yes, it’s simple and faster than commercial breaks on TV, but at least it’s something important. While some people experience intimacy only during holidays or holidays, others often go into good neighbor mode. However, I would like to point out that this never happens because the woman has a headache.

The problem of infrequent and low-quality sex in marriage is not particularly discussed because women are afraid to talk about it. It’s scary to admit to your friends that your husband doesn’t want you, so everyone claims that the passion in the relationship hasn’t disappeared. They create the illusion of family well-being on social networks. But everything hidden is revealed. Sooner or later you get tired of pretending and share your pain with a friend. Surprise: it turned out that he and his second friend were in the same situation. Nobody needs anything, perform in front of them with or without socks. I’m talking about adults, of course. Although here sociologists are also worried – they say that many young men prefer social networks for live communication with girls and are not very eager to move from theory to practice, so to speak.

No, of course, there is such an unconditional thing as a sexual constitution – the individual need for sex inherent in nature. But no matter how much you look for hairy, short-legged people with long second toes (as sexologists and the Internet say), you will not follow your heart and fall in love with the long-legged one. If his feet land on the ground, it will be too late. Although experts advise in any case to evaluate your future chosen one and be mentally prepared for what awaits you in your intimate life after the passions of the first years subside.

And sexual nature in general is not the main thing. Traditions, upbringing, lifestyle, bad habits, daily problems and often bad character are added to it. Moreover, Western scientists recently had some joy: they discovered the “winter penis” syndrome. They say that in winter, under the influence of cold weather, men’s sizes decrease by almost 50%, and with them erotic fantasies also decrease. I conducted a survey among my male acquaintances – of course, no one admitted to such a phenomenon. They say that winter penis syndrome does not threaten them and that they fight it with the help of warm trousers.

An endocrinologist I know once said that due to the abundance of alcohol, chips and fast food, men are actually losing much-needed testosterone, and with it, their libido. So, they don’t really need anything. By the way, this does not happen to women. I personally don’t know anyone who doesn’t enjoy sex, and fairy tales about headaches are actually kind of Middle Ages. If a woman doesn’t want to “do it,” it’s not her fault, it’s the man’s. Maybe he’s acting like a pig or a bad lover. Both can be corrected if there is a desire.

Dear men, it is time to get away from your smartphones and pay attention to the woman next to you. Don’t forget thermal underwear, just in case!

The author expresses his personal opinion, which may not coincide with the position of the editors.