In recent weeks, the author of this column has become more and more aware that commentators on social networks are becoming more active in the worst possible way: bright, sometimes burning, arguments flare up, people argue, break off relations, and some, on the contrary, begin to burn with passion for each other.
For a long time I looked at what was going on with amazement and some apprehension, until I realized: the spring flare! User behavior is often driven entirely by medical factors. And here’s more about them.
It’s no secret that recent years have not added mental peace to Russian residents. First the coronavirus, the quarantine associated with it, then the start of the NWO and partial mobilization. All this time, the degree of anxiety increased, but most of them retreated. Aggression increased. And then the winter ended, the lack of vitamins began, the body’s resources decreased, and the accumulated irritation began to spill over to random passers-by and more often waxing.
On the third day, I watched the picture in amazement: An elderly, well-known author published a piece after the author of this column disagreed with him in the comments to the article. All of them were completely devoted to the personality of the author, his appearance, a set of moral qualities, close and distant relatives. The material was specifically based on the thesis that the hero of the publication – how should I put it … In general, it refers to women who make a living in Dubai in a socially unacceptable way. I really wanted to go to Dubai right away! And he had already raised his hand to answer, but then he realized that the old organism could not cope with the heavy burdens falling on it. Of course, she took pity on the author, wished her sanity, and limited herself to that.
The case is not just an isolated case – literally every day I observe how the user Vasily or Peter with indescribable anger, even lust, wishes all bad things to the user Agafya and his entire family, up to the fifth generation. . Or vice versa!
So, what should you do if someone with absolutely inadequate behavioral patterns attacks you online and spreads aggression?
I had an argument with a friend recently. At an intersection, under a traffic light, a lady attacked him with cursing and accusations for absolutely no reason. A friend did not think for a minute – she began to answer him in exactly the same spirit, an ugly argument broke out. To my question: “Why did you do that?” – the girlfriend answered: “What am I, I will be quiet?”.
And then I realized that when people don’t react to aggression, they feel like losers. But this is absolutely not true!
A hypothetical example: If I’m walking in the front yard and an aggressive bum grabs me by my pants, will I take it back? And if I don’t answer, will I be the loser? Of course not!
By engaging in such communication, I am doing my opponent several favors at once: First, I play by his rules. Surely I had other plans for the next ten minutes – three hours? It was. But suddenly I have to “bark” with those who want it. Second, I state that the aggressor and I are worthy competitors on equal terms, otherwise why should I interfere? In law there is such a concept – “invalid action”. Here it is: if the opponent is unequal, the person subconsciously identifies the conflict as unimportant and simply does not enter into it.
Third, I give my strength, energy, and other resources to a complete stranger.
And fourth, or rather, the most important: there is no winner in a public squabble! Both participants receive disgrace as throwing dirt over the fence is not an appetizing sight.
So what should the reader do when such an aggressor takes hold of the Internet or on the street, as he has an exacerbation? Don’t answer, of course. If you want to hurt him and really hurt him, don’t give any reaction, take it like an empty place. This is the most painful, most unbearable feedback for him. Also leave the gestalt, it will be remembered for a long time.
The author of this column is trying to do just that. And it feels great!
But in general, of course, I wish citizens in general: some – patience, others – a speedy recovery!
The author expresses his personal opinion, which may not coincide with the editors’ position.