American scientists from the University of Georgia have identified a good strategy for recovering from unsuccessful romantic relationships. The study was published in the scientific journal magazine Journal of Social and Personal Relationships (JSPR).
Often, when breaking up, people tend to suddenly disappear from their ex-partner’s life, stopping all communication and cutting off contact. This behavior is called “ghosting”, from the English word “ghost”. Becoming such a “ghost” can be emotionally distressing and lead to feelings of confusion, rejection and humiliation, as well as damaging self-esteem, scientists say.
Alternatively, scientists suggest a “caspering” strategy. The name refers to Casper, a friendly ghost from American pop culture.
“Caspering” involves gradually stopping interactions with a former partner. This approach also allows you to talk honestly about why the relationship isn’t working, providing an opportunity for personal growth and self-improvement. This open dialogue often leads to an amicable separation, potentially leaving room for future connections or friendships.
Scientists emphasized that the main message of the gradual separation is “I respect you enough to thoughtfully end our relationship.”
Psychologists before I learnedMeeting your ex-spouse after divorce worsens your sleep.