81% of Russians reported having experienced traumatic events as children. However, only 25% received help and support from their parents. This is due to a joint work of the Skysmart online school for children and adolescents (by Skyeng) and the Yasno video consultation service with psychotherapists located on socialbites.ca. Analysts interviewed 2,5 thousand Russians to find out if adults felt the impact of difficult experiences and events in childhood.
Therefore, according to the results of the research, 90% of the participants associate traumatic experiences with family relationships, 55% in kindergarten and school, 33% in relationships with peers, and 27% in tragic situations. : illness, loss of a loved one, accidents, etc.
At the same time, only half of Russians remember their childhood positively, and 42% believe that their childhood was worse than the childhood of others.
“75% of those surveyed said their parents had never or practically helped them cope with difficult experiences. Meanwhile, 60% of respondents have attempted to resolve childhood trauma in psychotherapy, and 37% will do so. 3% of the respondents stated that they do not trust psychotherapy. At the same time, as respondents noted, traumas experienced in childhood due to difficult situations in the family have now affected how they manage to relate and educate their children.” children and Skysmart youth Anastasia Ekushevskaya.
65% of parents surveyed believe that their child’s childhood was better than theirs. Also, 42% of the participants admitted that they did not use their parents’ upbringing methods because they found it wrong, 24% partially used it, 21% of the participants admitted that they used it but tried to fix it. 78% drew attention to the importance of spending time together with the child.
The majority (70%) of respondents who are considering having a child in the future but are not yet parents stated that their child will meanwhile have a better childhood than theirs, and almost a third (27%) find it difficult. answer. 55% do not consider using their parents’ parenting methods because they think it is wrong, and 43% plan to use it partially.
At the same time, 33% of respondents said they never planned their children, mainly because of fear of being bad parents (46%). Career “building” and a generally indifferent attitude towards children rank 2nd and 3rd among the causes of the “childless” phenomenon.
“There were many similar responses to the open question about what participants associate childhood with. Therefore, among the positive connotations, summer, carelessness, freedom, holidays with grandparents prevail; negative ones include loneliness, helplessness, lack of choice, insecurity, and fear. Also, among the total number of respondents, association with “carelessness” ranks first, the words “fear” and “loneliness” come second and third,” said a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, a psychologist in Yasno service, editor of the Telegram channel OK, on” Marina Volkova.
The researchers also noted that 92% of adults are familiar with the concept of the “inner child”, with 54% of their “inner child” experiencing fear, anxiety and lack of attention. The following help Russians cope with problems and failures: the ability to hear their desires (63%), personal growth and education (55%), support from friends (54%) and a partner (44%), psychotherapy (50% ). Only 33% of respondents turn to their parents for help. Participants also stated that work, sports, and hobbies helped them cope with problems.
Earlier it was known that one out of every three Russians was afraid. loneliness.