If the child got a bad grade, then in no case should parents scold him, as this will not encourage knowledge, but will only lead to fear, lies and distrust of parents. Maria Makukhina, a clinical psychologist at Fantasy Children’s Clinic, told socialbites.ca about this.
According to the expert, the development of a child is very important, but from the point of view of psychology, the grading system in a modern school, where in reality only three classes are used, does not reflect neither the level of knowledge nor the progress in learning.
“For example, a kid who makes 20 mistakes in dictation will get a double. After working on the bugs, having done a tremendous job and making great progress, he will already make 10 mistakes, but his assessment will not change. Parents should keep this in mind and not push the child too hard, ”said the child psychologist.
He stated that cursing is the most wrong response to evaluations because it will result in nothing but negative results.
“If you scold a child for poor academic performance, he will begin to fear his parents, lie and hide his grades. Also, this will not encourage learning, the child will believe that knowledge is not important for parents, only the numbers in the magazine are important, ”explained Maria Makukhina.
According to the psychologist, it is much more effective to ask the child what the problem is and whether this assessment can be corrected – this encourages us to work with mistakes, develops self-control and self-control.
“Maybe the reason for the low grade was not lack of knowledge, but carelessness, fatigue, and you can approach the teacher and agree on a correction. If the assessment is about behavior, not knowledge, then it does not mention the student’s success at all.”
He also recommended asking the child if he needs help: maybe you should find a teacher or help him understand a difficult subject.
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