The reasons why a partner communicates with other girls are different – a man can look for a mistress, defend himself, be in an age crisis or believe in friendship. And all these reasons are combined with the fact that the partner is missing something in the relationship. Psychologist Nadezhda Akimova told socialbites.ca about this. He explained why the men reciprocated “from the side.”
According to the expert, the most frustrating reason for a partner to communicate with the opposite sex is the search for a mistress. Men resort to it when they are deprived of love and sex. By the nature of correspondence, you can guess that a man is looking for a mistress. And here it is better not to create illusions.
“However, it is not always that simple. Sometimes guys really just want to communicate. And this is the second reason for correspondence “on the side”. Sometimes you have to “pour your soul” to someone else, “the psychologist said, if he does not listen to his beloved partner and has no one to share his thoughts with.
Another reason to text other women is the midlife crisis. The fact is, the psychologist notes, that when young men are just starting out, it is very difficult for men of age to realize that they will have to put up with white hair and sit on the bench. Then they begin to “prove” to themselves that they are still attractive.
“The next reason is similar to the previous one – a man communicates with others, tries to show himself. Sympathy and attention from other girls are always especially pleasant. And men instinctively desire “new victories.” The sad thing about this is that it is impossible to understand how far the attempt at self-affirmation will go and whether it will end with ordinary correspondence, ”said Nadezhda Akimova.
He added that there are also men who see themselves as polygamous. But in fact, polygamy is mostly due to lack of education and a changeable character.
“This is exactly the case when a man wants to collect trophies all his life. For some, this becomes the true meaning of existence. Is it worth associating your life with such characters? Everyone should decide for himself, but if this does not comply with your principles, it is better not to,” warned the expert.
Another common reason for a guy to communicate with other girls is because he believes in friendship.
“Although many believe a priori that friendship between a man and a woman does not exist, this is not so. Numerous examples of sincere friendships prove the opposite. You can also learn a lot by communicating with a friend of the opposite sex. For example, learn how to relate to your lover.
One way or another, in no case can you be 100% sure that the correspondence is real betrayal. Any cause needs to be considered in more detail. The best option is to work with a family psychologist,” Akimova advised.
Formerly a psychologist judicial self-doubt causes feelings of shame for a partner.