The education system is designed in such a way that sometimes a bad or a good grade will stigmatize the student. If this is the stigma of an excellent student and “the pride of the class”, it can be difficult for a child to live with. This leads to anxiety and pitfalls. Adrian Landry, methodologist and director of educational content at the Novakid online English school, told socialbites.ca about this.
According to the expert, “Student syndrome” can be recognized in the constant desire to achieve high goals, even to the detriment of one’s own. Such a psychological trait of a person does not allow people, and especially children, to live calmly and adequately perceive failures.
“First of all, the “perfect student syndrome” threatens with neurosis that will kick in before every check or exam. Neurosis can lead to serious psychosomatic failures, and in difficult situations, the desire to bring everything to the ideal can turn into obsessive states,” Landry warned.
In addition, the self-esteem of a child with “perfect student syndrome” is highly dependent on external factors and needs to be fed with constant praise. This makes it difficult to live in society.
“Often, children with this syndrome are also not able to be friends, because it is difficult for them to communicate with someone who is measured by the constant success of others and is dissatisfied with the success of others and sees this as their inevitable defeat. Meanwhile, the “perfect student”‘s obsession with the result makes it impossible for the process to enjoy any work. It’s one thing to bake a cake, mix spices and candied fruit with inspiration, and it’s another thing to always worry about whether the crust will burn and a good dessert photo for social networks will turn out, ”the methodologist gave an example. .
Exactly so that all this does not lead to mental injuries or even disorders in the future, it is important to explain to children from childhood that it is useful to make mistakes, and that everything a child does is for himself, not for himself. approval of others.
“Give your child an example from life. Thomas Edison succeeded in making the world’s first electric lamp in his 10,000th attempt. And he did not perceive any of them as a defeat. “I found 10,000 ways that didn’t work,” Landry said.
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