Many people who are looking for a couple do not believe that a partner can be found on dating apps. But practice shows: even in cases where “people need only one thing”, you can meet someone with whom a serious relationship will develop, but it is better to listen to the advice of psychologists and relationship coaches.
“I recommend that you always tell the whole truth in the survey. If you want to get married, you have to say you want to get married. You need to write briefly and clearly, without philosophizing, ”says relationship coach Marina Zolotova.
According to him, success will depend on how clearly a person understands his desires. However, according to professional matchmaker Anastasia Yevseychuk, such a direct approach has both advantages in the form of obtaining “his own audience”, and disadvantages – a quick transition to “family life”, bypassing the “candy-bouquet period”.
To successfully go through all the stages of dating and developing relationships before starting a family, you need to start from the very beginning, namely with a beautiful profile picture and a well-filled questionnaire. “A guy on a dating site looks at four parameters – this is a photo, the name of the girl, her age and everything she wrote in the “About me” section. You should have three photos that attract you and do not tell everything about you, ”says Anastasia Yevseychuk.
Olga Morozova, marketing director of the Mamba dating site, recommends choosing four or six high-quality photos that show not only appearance, but also lifestyle.
“A great combination is a couple of selfies, a full-length photo, and photos showing your hobbies: travel, sports, cooking or anything else,” says the expert.
According to Mamba analysts, the most disliked photos of women are photos of smoking, and the most disliked photos of men are photos that do not smile.
Anna Grishacheva, CEO of the Teamo dating site, suggests that you should pay special attention to the optional fields when filling out the questionnaire. “Sometimes a few successful statements in the “about yourself” section tell more about a person than the photo of that person and the sum of all the information on the profile, potentially helping to grab the attention of the right person,” he says.
However, honesty doesn’t always work. Elena Bolgasova, a user of the dating site Mamba, was unable to find a partner while her page had a checkmark “for serious relationship”. Only after she cleared that mark did she go on a date where she met her future husband.
“I went to this appointment already in desperation, but I think you still need to meet for health, it is difficult without a man. And I decided, okay, there will be a meeting or two. And after the first date he decided to marry me, ”Elena Bolgasova shares her experience.
A positive profile description is another key to a successful acquaintance. But even with this approach to filling out the survey, you have to be careful what it focuses on.
According to the matchmaker Anastasia Yevseychuk, in both male and female polls, it should be noted that “most posted about herself in statements and photos.”
“This is exactly what this man or woman will not have,” she says. “If a man highlights his cars, his apartments, most likely there is some kind of nuance there, maybe it’s not his.”
Not in favor of women, according to him, the phrases “I am looking for a generous man”, “attentive, caring” will play. As a rule, such phrases are used on escort dating sites.
The ratio of male and female viewers on dating sites is usually split between 60 and 40. At the same time, the behavior of representatives of the two sexes on the sites is completely different.
The head of the VK Dating service, Oleg Vatalev, says: “Men like and swipe everyone in a row. Sometimes we can see that a man can get a few dozen likes in a few minutes, while women look at profiles statistically much more selectively.
Due to the increasing interest of men on dating sites, women may get the wrong impression that there is a huge demand from the opposite sex.
“Often times a girl can’t choose which guy to date when she sees such an illusion and so many messages. She goes with two or three people who get along as quickly as possible, she will be disappointed with dating sites and dates, she will often close the site and tell herself that she will never open it again, ”Anastasia Evseychuk shares the experience of many.
Relationship coach Marina Zolotova recommends always using three rules to avoid a deadly situation: “First of all, you have to be prepared for this to be a long story. Second, you need to understand what you want. The third is to not deviate from this path.