Psychological fears, situational fears, and mother-imposed fears are the three main reasons why men don’t want to get married. Psychologist Alena Al-As told socialbites.ca about this.
Among the most popular reasons for not wanting to get married, the psychologist named fear associated with a man’s negative attitude towards the family institution. Most often, according to him, we are talking about the parents’ fear of repeating the marriage scenario.
“Unhappy marriage of parents – scandals, mutual reproaches, resentment. Or the guy’s parents lived well and easily and then ugly divorced, including him in adult showdowns. And now, which makes sense, he is afraid of the same thing, but already in his family, ”she explained.
In second place, fears are situational, according to Al-As: the relationship seems to flow on its own and suddenly turns serious without the man knowing.
“Sometimes a woman wants to get married so badly that only yesterday she was talking about a cozy love affair for two, and today she invites distant relatives to visit her in her apartment. You cannot do it this way. The will to marry should be mutual and free. Not after threats, blackmail, and “somehow it happened on its own,” continued the expert.
The psychologist added that often the reason lies in the fears imposed by the man’s mother, especially if he has a great influence on the man and does not let him get away from himself.
“If a man does not leave his mother, then absolutely any woman, even the most ideal, will still be bad and will not be able to achieve the role of the bride, the mother will deter. It is important to note that for a psychologically mature man, the mother is the mother and the woman the wife. And no confusion! And it is important to understand that the separation must be on both sides: both the man and his mother must live their own lives, ”the psychologist explained.
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